“I’m going to have to ask you to leave.” – Thoughts on Moderation

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I think it is safe to say that most Community Managers are familiar with the “Online Disinhibition Effect“, better known as “John Gabriel’s Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory“.

For the most part Community Managers need to think about forums and comment sections as a holiday party with your friends. You invite them over to share stories, talk about your day, laugh, debate and generally try to have a good time. Differences of opinions are bound to happen and someone might poke a bit of fun at someone else, but all in all it should be an entertaining and engaging event at your house.

So what happens when one of the people at your party starts insulting and degrading another person? You – or someone – would step in and say “Hey! Calm down, there is no need to be like that”, and try to smooth things over so the party can continue. However if this person cannot stop the bad behavior and disrespecting of the other guests, chances are you will step in and say “Look, you need to stop or I’m going to have to ask you to leave”.

Hopefully they get the message. If not, you show them the door.

The same should apply to your forums and comment areas. Debate is fine, criticism should be constructive, dissenting thoughts should be respectful and above all, common decency should be shown to others. If this isn’t happening, then you first reach out to the offender and ask them to stop. Maybe ask them to “Be the better man” and let the heated conversation go. If that doesn’t work, let them know that you will take action if things don’t change and then stick to your guns and remove them if needed. Just be sure you always communicate with them about what you are doing and why you needed to take that step.

One Response to “I’m going to have to ask you to leave.” – Thoughts on Moderation
  1. Jim Ducharme Reply

    Good post Historian!

    In many years as a mod, admin and CM, I always marvel at two things:
    - Every online community has the same basic personalities in it
    - Adults can very quickly turn completely childish over the most idiotic and minor issues

    Most people don’t argue or discuss online to be right…they’re looking for validation of their views from others. We do the same thing in real life too. Thats important to understand because it’s never as simple as black or white, right or wrong. Humans are not binary.

    An experienced mod can usually predict exactly how certain personality types will react to a given situation. It’s truly fascinating how there is a pattern you can predict. That doesn’t mean you can assume though…

    I agree that once you have people degenerating into ad hominem, then you have to take action and try to resolve the situation. Happily most communities self moderate to a good degree. Online commmunities are like water, they set their own level. However, a good CM knows when to step in and relalizes sometitmes you have to make tough choices to protect the overall healt of the community.

    The only advice I would give to new CMs is don’t move to hastily and make sure you have ALL the facts before you assume anything and act.

    Regards,
    Jim Ducharme
    Community Manager
    GetResponse.com

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